The pros and cons about being a single parent
December 10, 2011 by Admin
Filed under How To Be A Single Parent
Article by Amie Haskett
Without a doubt there are pros and cons of being a single parent, but there are also a whole lot of myths about what it means to be one. Single parents are not the dregs of society; they are spin-offs of marriages and relationships gone wrong. They are people like you and me, with low incomes, with high incomes, from any walk of life.
Pros of being a single parent
You have been forced to deal with becoming a single parent and acknowledging your role as a mother, partner, and nurturer in a hurry. It has been observed that children raised with independence and confidence, can lead a normal life. Of course the opposite is true for children who have suffered trauma and negligence and not had a healthy upbringing, whether or not he is the offspring of a single parent. The way a parent raises, disciplines and nurtures a child will determine how the child is going to turn out.Children of single parents who have moved on in their lives are happy that their parents have achieved some kind of peace and resolution, and are happy for them. A child can be so enmeshed in a parent’s unhappiness that it affects his life. When the split has been sorted out amicably, the parents and children can move on. These parents have a stronger bond with their kids and their kids seldom develop behavioral problems.A very true fact is that children of single parents learn to take care of themselves and their siblings at a very early age. If his parents are not in competition with one another, a child can benefit from the advice of both parents’ approach towards life. These children would grow up with confidence and as adults be very cognizant in their role as parents themselves.
Cons of being a single parent
The trauma and unhappiness the child has to go through. It is not easy for a child to hear the word divorce and separation. A child’s first reaction is what will happen to him – who will he be with – who is going to care for him.There is also the fear on the part of the custodial parent as to how she will cope with this new family structure and how she will manage to provide for them all.The custodial parent will also have to work and will agonize that she is neglecting her children. Children who feel unloved or neglected may develop behavioral problems.Then there is the stigma of being a child of a single parent. To fit in, the child gives in to peer pressure and starts to experiment with drugs.
All is not lost. There are programs available for single parents with children. Start with a support group where you can meet someone in the same position as yourself, and navigate your way through the application process for some of these programs. You might meet a friend who has just gone through the process. Don’t miss any opportunity that can benefit you or your kids.
Learn how to be a more effective single parent family by visiting www.singleparentcenter.net and read about single parenting statistics and how to deal with problem children.
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